Gay Marriage and Homosexuality

Q. The Bible does not condemn homosexuality.  I am a regular viewer of your program.  A couple of months ago I listened to what you had to say about homosexuality, and I have gone to your website and read what you have said about homosexuality.  The Bible does not condemn homosexuality.  You may, but the Bible does not.  Don’t cite the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah, their sin was a lack of hospitality according to the most recent research that I’ve read. What are you going to do when Arizona requires you to perform marriage ceremonies between two men or two women?

Acts 5:29  (NAS 95)

29 But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men”

The state of Arizona does not have the authority to require me or any other gospel minister to perform marriage ceremonies for anyone.  If a law was passed which required me to perform such ceremonies I would willingly disobey the law and refuse to perform the ceremony even if it meant that I would be thrown in jail.  WE MUST OBEY GOD RATHER THAN MAN.

The contention that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality is untrue.  Briefly, let’s start where our questioner starts in Genesis 19.  He says that the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah were not related to the sin of homosexuality.  Let’s let the passage (and the rest of the Bible) speak for itself.  Lot is visited by two angels.  He appeals to them to spend the night in his home rather than in city square.  He feeds them, and then we read:

Genesis 19:4-5 (NAS 95)

4* Before they lay down, the men of the city, the men of Sodom, surrounded the house, both young and old, all the people from every quarter;

5 and they called to Lot and said to him, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us that we may have relations with them.” (“sex” in the NIV, “know” KJV)

We really do not need to read any further to demonstrate what was in the hearts and minds of the men who surrounded Lot’s house.  I know that homosexual theologians would like to remove certain passages from the Scriptures, and they would like to use some revisionists tactics to redefine words, but you can read you Bible for yourself and come to the simple and Biblical conclusion that Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed as a result of the sin of homosexuality.

If that’s not good enough consider Jude:

Jude 3-7 (NAS 95)

3* Beloved, while I was making every effort to write you about our common salvation, I felt the necessity to write to you appealing that you contend earnestly for the faith which was once for all handed down to the saints.

4 For certain persons have crept in unnoticed, those who were long beforehand marked out for this condemnation, ungodly persons who turn the grace of our God into licentiousness and deny our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ.

5 Now I desire to remind you, though you know all things once for all, that the Lord, after saving a people out of the land of Egypt, subsequently destroyed those who did not believe.

6 And angels who did not keep their own domain, but abandoned their proper abode, He has kept in eternal bonds under darkness for the judgment of the great day,

7 just as Sodom and Gomorrah and the cities around them, since they in the same way as these indulged in gross immorality and went after strange flesh, are exhibited as an example in undergoing the punishment of eternal fire.

I want you to open your Bibles to a passage in 2 Pet. chapter 2.  There are a number of concepts which we need to study and consider taught here:

2 Pet. 2:1-22(NAS 95)

1* But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing swift destruction upon themselves.

2 Many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of the truth will be maligned;

3* and in their greed they will exploit you with false words; their judgment from long ago is not idle, and their destruction is not asleep.

4 For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but cast them into hell and committed them to pits of darkness, reserved for judgment;

5 and did not spare the ancient world, but preserved Noah, a preacher of righteousness, with seven others, when He brought a flood upon the world of the ungodly;

6 and if He condemned the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah to destruction by reducing them to ashes, having made them an example to those who would live ungodly lives thereafter;

7* and if He rescued righteous Lot, oppressed by the sensual conduct of unprincipled men

8 (for by what he saw and heard that righteous man, while living among them, felt his righteous soul tormented day after day by their lawless deeds),

9 then the Lord knows how to rescue the godly from temptation, and to keep the unrighteous under punishment for the day of judgment,

10* and especially those who indulge the flesh in its corrupt desires and despise authority. Daring, self-willed, they do not tremble when they revile angelic majesties,

11 whereas angels who are greater in might and power do not bring a reviling judgment against them before the Lord.

12 But these, like unreasoning animals, born as creatures of instinct to be captured and killed, reviling where they have no knowledge, will in the destruction of those creatures also be destroyed,

13 suffering wrong as the wages of doing wrong. They count it a pleasure to revel in the daytime. They are stains and blemishes, reveling in their deceptions, as they carouse with you,

14 having eyes full of adultery that never cease from sin, enticing unstable souls, having a heart trained in greed, accursed children;

15 forsaking the right way, they have gone astray, having followed the way of Balaam, the son of Beor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;

16 but he received a rebuke for his own transgression, for a mute donkey, speaking with a voice of a man, restrained the madness of the prophet.

17 These are springs without water and mists driven by a storm, for whom the black darkness has been reserved.

18 For speaking out arrogant words of vanity they entice by fleshly desires, by sensuality, those who barely escape from the ones who live in error,

19 promising them freedom while they themselves are slaves of corruption; for by what a man is overcome, by this he is enslaved.

20 For if, after they have escaped the defilements of the world by the knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they are again entangled in them and are overcome, the last state has become worse for them than the first.

21 For it would be better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than having known it, to turn away from the holy commandment handed on to them.

22 It has happened to them according to the true proverb, “A DOG RETURNS TO ITS OWN VOMIT,” and, “A sow, after washing, returns to wallowing in the mire.”

All that Peter warns about can be applied to the institution of marriage.  Marriage is the second most important relationship known to man.  Being a Christian is the most important, but it is possible to become involved with the wrong person in marriage  and thereby make it impossible to live as a Christian.  Since the institution of marriage is no longer respected in our society as it once was, we would do well to go back to the original teaching on the subject to consider what it says.

Genesis 2:18=24

18* Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

19 Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name.

20 The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him.

21* So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place.

22 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.

23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”

24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

God said that it was not good for man to be alone.  He therefore made man a companion.  We can all be thankful that Adam did not find a companion among all of God’s living creatures.

In verses 21 and 22 we have the account of the creation of woman.  I am asked, with some frequency, “Was Adam created with an extra rib…? ” or “Why did God use Adam’s rib instead of creating Eve from the dust of the ground…? “  These are NOT the important lessons to be learned from this section of Scripture.

In this passage we learn that God created woman to be man’s mate, his “helper,” the one to help him with his joys and sorrows.

Verse 23 helps us to see that Adam recognized the woman as being a part of himself “this is now bone of my bones , And flesh of my flesh.”  She shall be called Woman.  The word “woman” is the feminine form of man, or she-man.  This name was intended to give us the idea of the close relationship between the man and the woman, the relationship that the Creator intended.

Verse 24 tells us of God’s design.  It’s difficult to see here in Genesis whether it is Adam who is doing the talking or if it is God.  In Matthew 19:5 Jesus seems to suggest that these are the words of God.  Here we have the institution of marriage.

There are several practical lessons we can learn from this passage:

1)  Man should leave his parents for his wife, and a woman is by the same authority to leave her parents.  It has been my experience that families will do better if they live separate from parents.  If there is a clash of interests between parents and the new family the husband and the wife are to work together for the interest of each other.

2)  Man is to be joined to his wife; and the wife is to be joined to her husband.  They must not allow the parents, selfish interests, hardships, poverty or anything else to come between them to separate them.

We must consider what Jesus teaches on this subject:

Matt. 19:4-6

4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,


6 “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

The Pharisees were trying to get Jesus to stumble in his answer to a difficult question.  He asks them “have you not read” the very passage we have been reading and studying.

Commenting on the institution of marriage Jesus says

that from the beginning (creation) God made men and women for the purpose of marriage.  NOTICE this, Jesus points to creation to teach the lesson of one man for one woman, and one woman for one man.

In Malachi 2, from the King James Version we have this interesting verse:

Malachi 2:15  – USE KJV here

15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

Malachi is rebuking the men of Israel for divorcing their wives and marrying others.  He points to creation and demonstrates that God made ONLY ONE WOMAN for Adam.  He could have made more, he had plenty of power to do so, but he made one BECAUSE he wanted a “godly seed”.

Jesus says that the “TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.”  Many are confused as to the meaning of this phrase.

McGarvey says: “That by it the pair become one flesh, so that a man is as much joined to his wife as he is to his own body.”

The apostle Paul wrote:

Eph. 5:28-29

28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;

29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,

All of this indicates the sanctity and mystery of marriage.  Paul says this a great mystery in Eph.5:33.

What is being taught here is that Husbands are not to love their wives in the same degree that they love their own bodies, but that they are to love their wives as being one body with themselves.  The wife is a part of the husband.  The two are one flesh.  The idea that the two are one make love a compelling necessity, and not just a matter of condescension.

The husband must “nourish” or feed, feed to maturity, support his wife.  “Cherish” means to warm, to keep warm, to cherish with tender love.

It is a precious thought to consider that Christ nourishes the church and cherishes her with the same warmth that a husband loves his wife, he does this because we are members of His body, even as a husband and wife are one body.  Christ nourishes the church with daily bread and food for the soul.

THEREFORE, the Bible clearly teaches that marriage is to be between ONE man and ONE woman.  Whatever our culture decides to do to this precious institution should not hinder the faithful Christian from observing and teaching God’s precious Word.

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